16 WONDERFUL Self-Talk to Build Self-Esteem (and Boost Your Confidence)

If you’ve been told “No”s 148,000 times, it seems impossible to rewire your brain from ‘I’m worthless’ to ‘I love being me’. But it’s not as difficult as you might think.

Did you know the first eighteen years of your life, you were told No’s 148,000 times?

According to Dr. Helmstetter, in his book, What to Say When You Talk to Your Self, that’s how many times you were told: “No” or “You can’t”.

But wait a minute.

That’s if you were lucky enough to grow up in a fairly positive environment.

So imagine if you weren’t so lucky.

No wonder, entering adulthood, we carry so much baggage with us, in my case an inferiority complex.

False Beliefs About Your Potential And Your Abilities

Before you shape your opinions, someone else – your parents, siblings, relatives or people in your community – decided what you could or couldn’t.

And told you so repeatedly that, in your mind, they became your beliefs.

You may not even know it because they’re wired so deep into your brain that your subconscious mind acts on it on autopilot.

Where do you think all these 68 negative self-talk came from in the first place?

So how do you change this 18 years’ worth of “curses” embedded in your subconscious mind?

Is that even possible?

Behavioural Expert and therapist Marisa Peer gives a superb overview of how our mind and brain work.

She says:

The way you feel about everything all the time is down to two things. The pictures in your head and the words you say to yourself.
– Marisa Peer

For more details and her TED talk, check out this post.

Here is the challenge.

Because so many No’s were drilled into us, it takes that much – if not more – effort to rewire our brain.

But it’s a small price to pay to reclaim our confidence and create the life we so deserve, right?

And the small price is repeating the right self-talk, which we can do anywhere, anytime.

Bookmark this page and read through the following positive self-talk phrases as often as you can.

After my failed business, I’ve used my positive affirmations to battle through low self-esteem.

Below 16 self-talks by Dr. Shad Helmstetter have solidified my effort to regain confidence. I find them superbly wonderful.

Or grab the book.

If anyone told me I could change my thoughts so dramatically at the price of less than a Happy Meal, I’d have laughed at them.

But after reading this book, I feel so blessed to stumble upon it.

It’s a privilege for me to spread the wonderful messages to others who deserve far more than the life they have now.

Take your first step with this self-talk into new possibilities now.

(The full credit for this “Self-Talk for Building Self-Esteem” goes to What to Say When You Talk to Your Self by Shad Helmstetter Ph.D)

1. I Really am Very Special

16 WONDERFUL Self-Talk to Build Self-Esteem (and Boost Your Confidence)

I really am very special. I like who I am and I feel good about myself.

2. I Like Who I am Today

16 WONDERFUL Self-Talk to Build Self-Esteem (and Boost Your Confidence)

Although I always work to improve myself and I get better every day, I like who I am today. And tomorrow, when I’m even better, I’ll like myself then, too.

3. There Really is No One Else Like me

16 WONDERFUL Self-Talk to Build Self-Esteem (and Boost Your Confidence)

It’s true that there really is no one else like me in the entire world. There never was another me before, and there will never be another me again.

4. I am Unique

16 WONDERFUL Self-Talk to Build Self-Esteem (and Boost Your Confidence)

I am unique––from the top of my head to the bottom of my feet. In some ways I may look and act and sound like some others––but I am not them. I am me.

5. I would Rather be Me

16 WONDERFUL Self-Talk to Build Self-Esteem (and Boost Your Confidence)

I wanted to be somebody – and now I know I am I would rather be me than anyone else in the world.

6. I Approve of Who I am

16 WONDERFUL Self-Talk to Build Self-Esteem (and Boost Your Confidence)

I like how I feel and I like how I think and I like how I do things. I approve of me and I approve of who I am.

7. I Have Many Beautiful Qualities

16 WONDERFUL Self-Talk to Build Self-Esteem (and Boost Your Confidence)

I have many beautiful qualities about me. I have talents and skills and abilities. I even have talents that I don’t even know about yet. And I am discovering new talents inside myself all the time.

8. I am Positive

16 WONDERFUL Self-Talk to Build Self-Esteem (and Boost Your Confidence)

I am positive. I am confident. I radiate good things. If you look closely, you can even see a glow around me.

9. I am Full of Life

16 WONDERFUL Self-Talk to Build Self-Esteem (and Boost Your Confidence)

I am full of life. I like life and I’m glad to be alive. I am a very special person, living at a very special time.

10. I am Intelligent

16 WONDERFUL Self-Talk to Build Self-Esteem (and Boost Your Confidence)

I am intelligent. My mind is quick and alert and clever and fun. I think good thoughts, and my mind makes things work right for me.

11. I Really Enjoy Being Me

16 WONDERFUL Self-Talk to Build Self-Esteem (and Boost Your Confidence)

I have a lot of energy and enthusiasm and vitality. I am exciting and I really enjoy being me.

12. People Like Me

16 WONDERFUL Self-Talk to Build Self-Esteem (and Boost Your Confidence)

I like to be around other people and other people like to be around me. People like to hear what I have to say and know what I have to think.

13. I Smile a Lot

16 WONDERFUL Self-Talk to Build Self-Esteem (and Boost Your Confidence)

I smile a lot. I am happy on the inside and I am happy on the outside.

14. I am Interested in Many Things

16 WONDERFUL Self-Talk to Build Self-Esteem (and Boost Your Confidence)

I am interested in many things. I appreciate all the blessings I have, and the things that I learn, and all the things I will learn today and tomorrow and forever––just as long as I am.

15. I have Many Good Qualities

16 WONDERFUL Self-Talk to Build Self-Esteem (and Boost Your Confidence)

I am warm, sincere, honest, and genuine. I am all of these things and more. And all of these things are me.

16. I Like Who I Am

16 WONDERFUL Self-Talk to Build Self-Esteem (and Boost Your Confidence)

I like who I am, and I’m glad to be me.

(Credit: What to Say When You Talk to Your Self by Shad Helmstetter Ph.D)

Read through as often as you can, see and feel the changes the self-talk makes in your thoughts and your life. 

♣ If you struggle from low confidence, What to Say When You Talk to Your Self will help you the best way you talk to yourself. It literally changed my life!

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It would be nice if someone could write things like this for men. Every where I look, it’s all just feminine stuff.

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