One Effective Way I Respond to Naysayers (That Works Every Time)

How do you respond when people cast doubt on your ideas, disagree with you or even ridicule you?

You have dreams.

Maybe you want to lose weight, build a website, write a book, start a business or travel the world.

You pluck up the courage and mumble your plan to your friends, family or the significant other only to be met with lukewarm responses or downright negativity.

  • “Are you sure you want to do this? You might be wasting your time.”
  • “But you don’t know anything about web design.”
  • “You don’t have time for that!”
  • “It’s impossible to lose weight. Don’t even try.”
  •  “I’ve been there, done that. It’s not as easy as you think.”
  • “Come on, you are not cut out for business.”

People put a limit on us all the time.

The limit they have on them.

Because they failed themselves.

Because they didn’t have the courage to try.

They secretly wish that you wouldn’t go out there and prove them wrong or, heaven forbid, you have what they couldn’t have.

Perhaps they’re genuinely worried and wish you stay in your comfort zone.

Sadly the majority of people listen to naysayers and give up even before trying.

They let others’ beliefs and fear decide their fate.

Your Response to Naysayers

You may have been hurt by naysayers before.

Feel disheartened and discouraged.

You get defensive and argue.

Sometimes, try to persuade them to see what you see.

Oftentimes though, you just get upset and depressed. You bottle up resentment.

How so little they can think of me?!

What do they know about me, anyway?

But then, doubts start creeping in.

Maybe they’re right…

They must know me well enough to say that.

You’re on the verge of giving it up while feeling the heaviness of your heart.

The whole unpleasantness and doubt circling your body and soul.

Take a step back and observe what you feel.

Or recall what you felt the last time when you were in a similar situation.

And next time, try this.

Catch yourself BEFORE you let yourself go through an emotional turmoil and say:

“Hmm, Isn’t That Interesting?”

Say it like you just heard something very peculiar.

Something that piqued your curiosity for a brief moment:

Hmm, isn’t that interesting?

With it, let the (superficial) curiosity evaporate quickly and go about your business.

The magic of this phrase is that it enables you to act as though you’re a spectator.

You aren’t emotionally invested in what others have to say about your plan.

With this response, you neither agree nor disagree with them.

The people you’re having a conversation with are not being ignored.

At the same time, you don’t allow them to pull you into further “discussion” that isn’t helpful for you.

Once you say the words, steer the conversation to a different direction.

When you walk down the road and see a puddle of water in the middle, you notice its random existence:

hmm, interesting..

(Not really but you know what I mean…)

Walk around it, continue with your walk and soon forget what you saw.

The puddle of water doesn’t have to stop you from walking towards your destination.

It works the same way. And it works every time.

People will always believe what they want to believe.

It’s hard to change others’ opinions once they have made up their mind.

It’s a fruitless endeavour to try to convince others to agree with you.

Especially when the end result is going to affect you negatively.

Final Thoughts

You’ve researched TONS to do “that thing” you want to do.

You know what it takes to make your dreams come true.

You have unwavering conviction and determination to make it work one way or another.

When you believe in yourself and your abilities, you don’t need others’ permission to pursue your goals.

When you don’t need others’ permission, why waste time and energy on what others have to say.

As long as you have won you over, the real meaningful battle is over.

You’ve gained the ONLY permission that really matters, that is, YOURS.

Don’t let others talk you out of your dreams.

Use this phrase at your disposal, keep working towards your goal and see what you’re made of.

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2 Comments

Yes I have, & I did the exact opposite if what they they & I came right they like WOW, felt like saying didn’t listen to your negative opinion
I don’t tell anyone now only 1 Bestie
who supports me

Thanks for sharing your thought, Wendy! Arent’ these naysayers super annoying? In my experience, the suggested approach causes little to no friction and allows both parties to move on quickly. Some even say “thank you” which shuts them up right away! But I like your direct approach too. Awesome you have a bestie who supports you. Welcome back anytime!

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