If we all did the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves.
– Thomas Edison
In my previous post, I talked about 15 things that happen when you believe in yourself.
Since self-belief changes all aspects of our life for the better, I want to hammer home what I’ve learned and help you adapt this critical belief as a permanent fixture in your life.
Not a Yo-Yo like resolution: one minute you’re high with a zest for life and dozens of goals. Next minute you want to bash your head against the wall.
Nope, we don’t want that, do we?
We want this life-changing belief system to take a permanent residence in our brain.
Let’s first recap what happens when you believe in yourself. You can read the full blog post here.
Believing in yourself makes you:
- become a go-getter
- appreciate every win
- generous to others
- kinder to yourself
- feel satisfied and fulfilled with your life
It’s an impressive list.
Imagine feeling each of the positive emotions, empowering yourself to achieve whatever you set your mind to.
The tips outlined below will help you do just that.
I learned each tip by vigorously implementing it myself. I have since made substantial progress with my life.
So much so, my self assessment about overall happiness level went up from 5 to 8 (10 being the highest).
5 was a terrible place to be (trust me – you don’t want to be there!).
8 is super – I couldn’t be happier.
Being a work in progress, I’m now eyeing for a higher score.
“What If I don’t Believe in Myself?”
No matter how fragile your self belief is now, believing in yourself is one thing worthwhile to pursue blindly.
When I found my (self-assessed) happiness level plummeted to 5, I was at my lowest point.
My self-belief virtually non-existent. My confidence shattered. My self-esteem fractured.
Everything changed when I embraced my weak self belief and determined to strengthen it.
No matter how weak your self belief is, you’re good enough.
Make one life-changing choice today: believe in yourself. You have everything in you to make believing in yourself stronger.
Each practical tip outlined below will help you make believing in yourself easy.
Practical Tips to Make Believing in Yourself Easy
1. Find Victories in Every Corner
We’re a bundle of energy.
Mind with positive energy is creative and uplifting and gets things done with forward thinking.
Negative energy does the opposite.
You want to encourage yourself and instil “can-do attitude” in all things you do.
Don’t wait for others to do that for you. Building self-belief based on others’ input is futile and weak as a sand castle.
A firm foundation comes from your own actions and results.
Comb through your day and pick every victory you have accomplished.
Make a list, let it be a source of inspiration, and cheer yourself on.
Collecting all your achievements and reminding yourself of what you can do makes believing in yourself easy.
Win small. Win often.
– Sage, moneyhabitmuse
2. Create a Vision
Imagine floating in the ocean, aimless and lost. You don’t know which way is up or down.
That’s what living without vision looks like.
To work on our belief system, we need a vision that enables us to see forest beyond trees and rocks.
Having something to live for makes us stretch our abilities and strive to become an improved version of ourselves.
Pause for a bit and think about the future life you want to live. Describe it in details. Put it on paper.
Your vision sets things in motion, inspiring you to believe in yourself, act on achieving goals, and forge a better version of yourself.
A vision is not just a picture of what could be; it is an appeal to our better selves, a call to become something more.
– Rosabeth Moss Kanter
3. Bring the Vision to Now
We set short-term goals comprising steps and tactics to realise our long-term goal, our vision.
Believing in yourself is a cumulative result from taking consistent action on short-term goals.
The more goals we achieve, the stronger our self-belief becomes.
Bring your vision to now by breaking it down to as many units of shorter-term goals as you can.
Break it down to month, week, day, hour, finally now.
Make sure your activity right now is in harmony with your vision.
Today’s action aligned with your vision makes believing in yourself easy.
The critical ingredient is getting off your butt and doing something. It’s as simple as that. A lot of people have ideas, but there are few who decide to do something about them now. Not tomorrow. Not next week. But today. The true entrepreneur is a doer, not a dreamer.
– Nolan Bushnell
4. Find Courage in Action
The moment we step outside our comfort zone, a predictable human nature sets in.
Doubt lurks with an uneasy fluttering in the stomach.
It’s a natural response that happens to everyone.
The paradox is that the more often you expose yourself to uncharted territory, the dimmer your sensitivity to the unknown gets and the bolder you become.
Understanding this and pushing yourself outside comfort zone frequently makes believing in yourself easy.
Men acquire a particular quality by constantly acting in a particular way. We become just by performing just action, temperate by performing temperate actions, brave by performing brave action.
5. Narrow the Gap Between the Current Skill and Vision
When you measure up your current knowledge and skills to your vision, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed or doubt that you don’t have what it takes to achieve success.
But don’t sell yourself short. Remember, you have the time to gain the knowledge and skills necessary for your vision.
Besides, you don’t have to be good at everything. You only need to be great at specific things.
This realisation will take doubt away right off the bat.
Improving your current skill and narrowing the gap between the skills in need and the vision will make believing in yourself easy.
We judge ourselves by what we feel capable of doing, while others judge us by what we have already done.
– Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
6. Plan Your Day
Planning my day used to be an immense challenge for me. I loved being spontaneous. I craved unpredictability. I still do, but I also realised that I needed order in my life.
I’ll never tell you to map out every minute of your day because it’s not something I aspire to. But if it’s your thing and you’re a super organiser, go ahead.
I have since changed my exercise goal from relaxed approach to a one hour and thirty minutes’ vigorous routine with one day per week rest.
Aside from the above, I also adapted below:
- Wake up & Go to bed at a fixed time
- Listen to the guided meditation before bed
- Go out for fresh air and sun
- Eat healthy food
These are the very basic things I have in my daily planner.
Whether you’re a super organiser or a spontaneous person like me, planning your day minimises chaos and gives you structure, a sense of control, even peace.
And following through your daily plan increases self-trust, making believing in yourself easy.
It’s not enough to be busy, so are the ants. The question is, what are we busy about?
– Henry David Thoreau
7. Drop Perfection
Have you ever tried to catch the wind in your palm? (um, not that one!)
Perfection is like the wind you want to hold in your palm but can’t.
The impractical burden of achieving perfection hinders us from either starting a project or completing it (or both).
Forget perfection and instead produce your absolute best work for today.
If you pass the below question with a resounding Yes, congratulate yourself, close it and open a new page.
“Is this your best today? – did you give your 100%?”
You gain confidence from completing your project, which makes believing in your ability easy.
Have no fear of perfection – you’ll never reach it.
– Salvador Dali
8. Be Friendly with Yourself
This is almost too easy if you do everything outlined above.
If you want to work down the list, I recommend you begin with “Plan Your Day”.
Your daily planning includes the things that’s important to you.
Ticking off the items on your planner gives you a sense of fulfilment and happiness (bonus: your inner critic goes quiet).
You become friendly with yourself, which makes believing in yourself easy.
Whatever you are doing, love yourself for doing it. Whatever you are feeling, love yourself for feeling it.
– Thaddeus Golas
9. Never Lose Hope
Things don’t always turn out as we hope, but it’s important you don’t lose hope, no matter how hopeless it seems.
Sometimes, it feels like the sky is falling down. You’re the only one in the entire universe.
But remember, we all go through trying times. Think about the last time you faced hardship and how you got through.
There was a time you thought you couldn’t go on, but you did.
Summon inner strength: you already have it in you. You’re a warrior: you can overcome any obstacles just like you did in the past.
Recognising that strength within you makes believing in yourself easy.
The human capacity for burden is like bamboo – far more flexible than you’d ever believe at first glance.
– Jodi Picoult, My Sister’s Keeper
Just as no one can live your life for you, no one can make you believe in you. Nor can you make others believe in you.
You’re the only person who can believe in yourself, and it comes down to a simple choice: you believe in you or you don’t.
Make a choice to believe in you today and align behaviours using the tips outlined above.
You’ll find that believing in yourself gets easier and stronger.
And in no time will you gain unwavering self-belief that helps you achieve whatever you set your mind to and live a successful life you deserve to.
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