3 Reasons to Stop Complaining about Your Life (or Anything, Really)

When I saw the below motivational quote on Pinterest the other day, I felt compelled to pin it to my Pinterest.

As you breathe right now, another person takes their last. So stop complaining and learn to live with your life with what you have.

It’s so true.

At the same time, it reminded me of Anne Frank: The Diary of a Young Girl as it invoked the same reaction the last time I read it.

When her parents (or one of them) had chided her and reminded her of people who were in a worse situation than her, Anne complained in her diary that other people’s situation – no matter how worse off – didn’t make her problem any easier.

You would probably agree with her with something along the line with:

Why should I care about others having worse than me when I have to deal with awful stuff happening to me right now.

You’re not alone thinking that way.

I did too.

Besides, it’s not a bad thing to be selfish and look after the number one person, that is, you, despite millions of people out there going through far worse than you.

But…

(You knew that was coming, right? ha)

Why do we complain at all in the first place?

We complain because there is something we feel dissatisfied in our life.

We already established others’ problems don’t alleviate our imminent issues.

The problem lies when we choose to do nothing about our situations but complain as we often do.

Complaining itself isn’t bad.

But if we aren’t going to do anything about it, it’s probably worse than not complaining at all in the first place.

Here are a couple of things you may want to consider why you complain but do nothing.

3 Reasons You’re Complaining About Your Life

1. Complaining Out of Habit

You’re addicted to it.

You may not see it that way right now.

I didn’t, either.

Being addicted to complaining sounds absurd but I realised much later what I was doing was playing a victim.

It’s a kinda comfy place to be in, albeit miserable.

Think about it.

Lie in bed, look up the ceiling and complain all day long – that’s far easier than get up and find a solution, right?

Thankfully, I’ve come to my senses when I realised complaining and wasting my life away was no way of living.

In fact, I wasn’t living at all but existing.

Most importantly though, I did feel guilty when reading other people’s stories suffering from incurable diseases.

Or losing family members through unexpected accidents all too sudden and too soon.

The dying clinging to the last few days they have together in this life (while I take mine for granted).

2. Complaining to Garner Attention

Complaining out of habit is one thing.

But are you using it as a form of attention-seeking?

Are you looking for sympathy?

Someone comes along and holds your hand, telling you what you’re feeling is justified and valid?

Don’t get me wrong. We all need time to vent occasionally.

But if you’re a habitual complainer who likes to garner attention, your act of complaining can be detrimental to your wellbeing.

Complaining adds no value to the quality of your life.

When was the last time you complained to your heart’s content and felt really good about it?

The truth is it makes you – as well as others – feel worse afterwards.

Misery may love company.

It also means you inevitably attract fellow chronic complainers to your life, exposing yourself to negative talks all the time.

3. Complaining to Skirt Responsibility

It’s not going to work.

It’s impossible to meet the deadline.

No way I can get up 1 hour early.

The terrible traffic always makes me late.

You may be complaining to avoid responsibility.

It’s easier to make excuses and complain than take up opportunities to improve yourself.

Or be proactive to deal with potential issues such as morning traffic by getting up a little early.

When you focus on problems and complaining about them, you lose sight of finding a solution.

You’re too busy feeling stuck with problems and accepting them instead of working your way to a solution.

Final Thoughts

I think it’s worthwhile to repeat the powerful words:

As you breathe right now, another person takes their last. So stop complaining and learn to live with your life with what you have.

Theodore Roosevelt said something similar:

Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.
– Theodore Roosevelt

Keep focusing on “what you have” and appreciate them. 

It’s the best way to move away from complaining, see opportunities around you, create a positive relationship with yourself and others and live your best life.

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