4 Ways to Develop Good Communication Skills

Invest in yourself. One easy way to become worth 50 percent more than you are now at least is to hone your communication skills. If you can’t communicate, it’s like winking at a girl in the dark: Nothing happens.
– Warren Buffett

When I worked full time, one thing I hated most was a weekly meeting.

Not only was it a massive time-waster, it was a rampant playground for highlighting problems (not to solve but to blame) and fingerpointing.

What always fascinated me though was how easily a person with good communication skills could get away from a sticky situation.

My mediocre communication skill had bothered me for a long time. I often questioned myself why I wasn’t as articulate as I’d like to be.

This is another reason why I started blogging.

I wanted to improve my communication skill and be able to persuade others to see my perspectives on various topics.

This is not about others agreeing or disagreeing with everything I say.

Writing helps me to express things that I care about in a way others may want to at least think about.

That’s what good communication skills are about.

Being able to express your thoughts in a coherent manner.

It benefits you in so many ways in personal and business settings and therefore good communication skills are essential in achieving success in life.

Here are a few benefits of being a good communicator.

Benefits of Being a Good Communicator

You can market yourself well. Whether you’re applying for a job or negotiating your salary, being able to sell yourself well enhances the chance of success.

And let’s be honest. We’re all in business of selling something whether it’s trust, friendship or business ideas.

You can defend people you care about. There comes a time when you need to put forward an argument for your family or your colleagues.

Being articulate helps resolve a conflict in the manner that favours you and gets you or your loved ones out of a sticky situation.

You’ll most likely get what you want, cultivate a good relationship with people around and have the potential of being a good leader in the community or/and organisation.

Below are 4 ways to develop communication skills.

1. Be a Good Listener

Being a good listener is communication skill 101.

I wasn’t good at this for a long time.

Oftentimes I’d eagerly wait for “my turn” to talk and think about what I’d say instead of paying attention to what the other person is saying.

People who communicate effectively are good listeners.

They are attentive and don’t interrupt others. Nor do they rush others.

They make others feel the most important person.

When you listen well, it enables you to respond well too with your well-constructed thought after carefully considering what other people have said.

2. Talk Slowly and Clearly

This may not apply to you but certainly, apply to me.

Along with being an impatient listener, I used to rush and talk really fast as if I’d forget what I was going to say otherwise.

My thoughts would run too fast to catch up!

Now, when I have an important meeting, I silently remind myself:

Talk slowly and clearly.

I become much calmer and have no more of “urgh, should’ve said this and that” later.

3. Be Confident

Confident people have a knack for communicating.

They find a common ground quickly and build a rapport with ease.

Whether you’re introverted or extroverted, you can be confident.

Speak with assertiveness.

Treat others with respect, stand straight when talking, maintain eye contact, be courteous and smile.

People tend to mirror each other’s behaviours.

4. Be Curious

Learn to communicate effectively by placing yourself in others’ shoes. And never lose childlike curiosity.

Good communicators are open-minded and understanding.

They value others’ experiences and opinions.

They’re curious, eager to learn and exchange information to benefit mutually.

Express genuine interest, ask thoughtful questions, engage in a meaningful way and make interaction productive and positive.

Final Thoughts

People with good communications skills almost always have good people skills.

They are diplomatic and empathetic towards others.

Developing good communication skills is essential to lead a successful life.

Not only to get what you want but to create a positive, encouraging and engaging environment for everyone involved so that a common goal is achieved for everyone’s benefits.

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